Can a gay marriage reflect Christ and the Church?

The following article demonstrates some key factors that encourage marriage between Christian same-sex couples. However, this must be prefaced with a knowledge of the alternate translation within the Scripture that shows that homosexuality is not condemned as a sin as a whole in the Bible, but rather same-sex acts of rape, shrine prostitution, promiscuity, orgies, etc. Please first read this alternate translation before proceeding at If you do not read the previous information provided, note that it will be difficult to accept the below information without all of the puzzle pieces. Please refrain from condemning words unless you are fully familiar with the alternate gay-affirming translation within Scripture that address the verses that appear to condemn homosexuality.

Biblical marriage is a God-centered committed monogamous life-long covenant. In the Bible, we only see examples of heterosexual marriage (unless David and Jonathan’s covenant was in fact a marriage.) This is not that unusual considering that homosexuals make up a very small portion of the population. The Bible gives no instruction on marriage to hermaphrodites (those born with both working sex organs), but they also exist in the minority. Couldn’t a marriage to a hermaphrodite be considered both a heterosexual and homosexual marriage? I was reading Scriptures recently and praying for knowledge in this area of marriage and I received this message loud and clear:
I am convicted that Biblical heterosexual marriage is a BLUEPRINT for same-sex couples as well. Just as the Message of Salvation was given “first to the Jew, then to the Gentile,” the blueprint for marriage as God centered, life-long committed union was given first to the heterosexual (majority), then to the homosexual (minority.) In Biblical times, the majority of the God-believing community were Jews. The Gentiles were the outsiders, yet a minority of Gentiles (non-Jews) believed in God despite their rejection from the Jews. It was the majority Jew belief that ALL Gentiles were unclean abominations, essentially cast out from God. They believed within themselves that only the Jews were chosen by God to believe. Only a few Jews believed that Salvation was open to the Gentiles as well, and this was in fact the true message (refer to Isaiah 56 and Acts chapter 10.) This Biblically demonstrates that “the majority” of believers aren’t always in the right… Likewise, it seems that the majority of contemporary Christians believe that gays cannot be Christians, nor does God bless a same-sex marriage. Are they correct because they are in the majority in this belief? Or have they confused their personal repulsion of the sex act for Spiritual conviction? Throw in the modern “traditional” translation of Scripture and it appears to justify them despite the contextual and linguistic evidence to the contrary.
(Again, please visit for the alternate translation.)

God's blueprint for marriage It has been said in Scripture that Biblical marriage is a reflection of Christ and the Church. Sometimes Christians say that only heterosexual marriage is recognized by God because homosexual marriage does not fit this comparison. The truth is that such a comparison can only be made PERFECTLY CLEAR beside the ancient marriage process in Biblical times. Marriages in Biblical times were conducted much differently than they are done today. Modern Christian marriage consist of the partners looking for a partner, dating/courting, engagement, obtaining a government state marriage license, wedding ceremony by clergy in a church, celebration, and then consummation on a “honeymoon,” usually at some exotic or attractive location. No modern Christian marriage reflects Christ and the church in the same way as the cultural practice of marriage in Biblical times. Pay attention to the differences:

1) The first step was for the father to chose his daughters’ husband with the daughters’ verbal consent of agreement. *The act of the father choosing the husband for his daughter is like God choosing His Son for us. The verbal consent of agreement from the bride is like the body of believers agreeing to follow Christ. Note that this is a mutual agreement.*

2) A contract (called a “ketubbah”) was signed between the male and the bride’s father and a dowry payment of 50 shekels of silver was paid to the father for the “bride price.” A cup of wine was shared between the couple from the same cup, sealing the covenant. Once the contract was signed and cup was shared, the couple was completely legally married and the ketubbah was filed at the synagogue. There was a waiting period before co-habitation, sometimes lasting a year or more. *The ketubbah marriage covenant is proof that the body of believers have committed to follow Christ. The dowry payment is Jesus’ payment for our sins. The sharing of the cup is reflective of communion and a symbol of our marriage vow to Jesus. The filing of the ketubbah in the synagogue is a reflection of the body of believers names written in the Lamb’s Book of Life. The waiting period for cohabitation is our life, as we wait to be united with Christ in Heaven.*

3) Third was consummation of the marriage which was performed in the wife’s house. Proof of virginity was proved by a white cloth which had to show blood after consummation and was then shown to the father of the wife. *Consummation is like us coming together as one with Christ with the Holy Spirit within us as believers. This act of consummation could also be represented by Baptism as we chose to follow Christ. The Father accepts us through proof of Jesus’ blood covering our sins. Note that the blood is represented by the wife in this case, as now the two have become one and our righteousness is only made perfect in the eyes of God by the Grace of Jesus’ sacrifice.*

4) Once the consummation was completed and previous virginity was ensured, the last step was the wedding feast of celebration which was done at the husbands house. *As we are risen to be united with God at the Father’s House in Heaven, we celebrate and have the Wedding Supper of the Lamb, as the body of believers (the church) are forever with Christ.*

imageWith this true comparison, we can’t honestly apply modern marriage to this exact design. If we did, the order would be mixed up and things added that don’t fit. In most modern marriages, the father (represented by God) doesn’t chose the husband (represented by Jesus) for his daughter (represented by the body of believers). Dating or courting don’t fit. We can’t supplement engagement for the the Ketubbah, as this is not done by a contract and can be broken at any time (metaphorically suggesting that Salvation is easily broken by either party.) There were no ceremonies of vows or head of clergy to officiate nor a government license. The modern wedding doesn’t compare, as the ancient marriage came long before consummation. Modern celebration as a reception happens before consummation, which would be like celebrating in Heaven before we unite with Christ as forgiven believers on earth. Please note that I am not trying to say that modern Christian marriage has no comparison to Christ and the church, but rather showing exactly how the act of ancient Biblical marriage custom PERFECTLY reflects Christ and the church.

With this considered, we can find great value in reflecting the cultural marriage of Biblical times with Christ and the church. But if we try to condemn same-gender relationships based on “lack of comparison,” than we must also condemn all modern heterosexual marriages as not perfectly reflective. I am obviously not suggesting that we do this… I am only showing how marriage custom in the Biblical culture is HOW it perfectly reflects Christ and the Church, so we should not condemn gay marriages based on a difference in gender-paring.

Aside from this, there are still major comparisons of modern Christian marriage to Christ and the church that always remain throughout time:
-Christ and the church are monogamous while Christian marriage is monogamous.
-Christ and the church are eternal while Christian marriage is life-long (“eternal” to earthly standards).
-Christ and the church are committed while Christian marriage is committed.
-Christ and the church are united in a covenant while Christian marriage is united in a covenant.
-Christ loves the church while Christian marriage is loving.
-Christ forgives the church while Christian marriage is forgiving…
-Most importantly, Christ serves God with the church and Christian marriage serve God together.
*These things that remain are applied to ancient AND modernimage Christian marriage and can also be followed by Christian same-sex unions as a blueprint for marriage, as given to us in Scripture. They do not require gender differences to be compatible.*

So if Biblical marriage is a blueprint for same-sex couples, we have to consider what constitutes as a marriage since many geographical areas do not recognize same-sex marriage. Are all gay committed monogamous relationships outside of marriage unless they live in a state or country that legally recognize it? I don’t believe this is so. Biblical marriage was not a state or government contract. It was and is a united covenant between the couple and God. There were no government marriage “licenses” in Biblical times, yet they were considered married by their covenant. We can suppose from Scripture that the first marriage was instituted by God between Adam and Eve. Why now would we have to ask the government permission to marry if it is a covenant made between the couple and God?

1 Timothy 4:1-3 describes that in later times, people will move away from true teachings and forbid people to marry. There is historical documentation that same-sex marriage was performed in some churches in the past. Not until recently, most were forbidden from marriage. This is similar to the forbidding of interracial marriage in the United States. Ironically, government marriage licenses were not in effect in the U.S. until it became a law that interracial couples ask the governments’ permission before marrying. Then it became widespread that all state marriages require licenses. This law is formed from a government institution, not Biblical. It puts the final authority in the government’s hands rather than God. God is the only final authority and should be held as the only final authority in the marital union. Therefore, it seems that a legal government license is not required to be truly married in the eyes of God.

The fact that same-sex couples have been denied government license to marry for so long has caused many to feel that “the rules” don’t apply to them. I feel that the problem of same-sex promiscuity and short fading relationships is because the majority have discouraged same-gender marriage. For us to be equal, we must act in an equal way and take marriage seriously. There are many life-long same-gender relationships, but most of the modern church sees and believes only the gay promiscuity. As Christians, we should form a marriage covenant that is God-centered, committed, life-long, and monogamous. It is my belief that this does not require government marriage license, but a mutual covenant made before God.

Upon examining all of the evidence, it seems that same-sex couples should follow the blueprint for marriage outlined in Scripture. If we mutually follow Christ and grow in our walk with God together, how can we fail? In the Prophetic book of Isaiah, God reveals that the outcasts are and will be accepted by God. Heterosexuals may see us as eunuchs or foreigners to God. But the prophecy of the future has been revealed! Isaiah 56:3-6,7b,8 states, “Let no foreigner who is bound to the Lord or say, ‘The Lord will surely exclude me from his people.’ And let no eunuch complain, ‘I am only a dry tree.’ For this is what the Lord says: ‘To the eunuchs who keep my Sabbaths, who choose what pleases me and hold fast to my covenant— to them I will give within my temple and its walls a memorial and a name better than sons and daughters; I will give them an everlasting name that will endure forever. And the foreigners who join themselves to The Lord, to minister to Him, to love the name of The Lord, and be His servants… —’My house shall be called a house of prayer for all peoples.’ The Lord God, who gathers the outcasts of Israel, declares, ‘I will gather yet others to him besides those already gathered.'” May your marriage grow in the abundant blessings of The Lord as you do all things for the glory of God!

About moanti (moe·on·tee)

My main mission of this blog is to demystify the confusion of “homosexuality” in the Bible and let the rarely heard alternative perspective be known. I also aspire to spread the loving Word of Christ to the gay and lesbian community who feel left out due to our society. I have extraordinary compassion for gays and lesbians who have struggled with religious persecution, but hope that they can come to know God as loving rather than run from Him forever due to a group of naïve heterosexual Christians who discriminated against them. I want to bridge the gap of these two groups with knowledge! If only I had a bigger podium to accomplish this… Please spread the word. Thank you and happy reading!
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